http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/icmp_source_quench
afaik, a lot of oses ignore them and they are often filtered by firewalls. most tcps have their own congestion control mechanisms so icmp source quench is not used a lot.
if your hp-ux sends them and your winnt uses them.. i would try to filter them on the nt box; cause nt might be overreacting.
that might not solve the problem but at least you would know the slowness is not caused by icmp alone. hp-ux could be sending them as part of a more general slowdown mechanism (ex, it could be reducing the tcp window and dropping some packets too).